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What are the psychological effects of constantly trying to control others?

12.07.25 04:32 AM - By Dr Elizma van der Smit - Comment(s)
What are the psychological effects of constantly trying to control others?

 

The Weight of Control

The desire to control the actions and decisions of those around us stems from a place of care and concern. Whether it's a loved one, a colleague, or a friend, we often feel responsible for their choices and outcomes. However, constantly trying to control others can have a ...

The thing about psychological and emotional abuse

04.06.25 02:35 AM - By Dr Elizma van der Smit - Comment(s)
The thing about psychological and emotional abuse

Psychological and emotional abuse can take many forms and often involve tactics that undermine a person's self-esteem, autonomy, and emotional well-being. Here are some examples:

 

Psychological Abuse:

 

Psychological abuse is a form of maltreatment that involves the use of manipulative, contr...

Box-breathing: An effective technique for anger and stress

25.05.25 05:31 AM - By Dr Elizma van der Smit - Comment(s)
Box-breathing: An effective technique for anger and stress

According to betterhealth.vic.gov.au, when a person is under stress, their breathing pattern changes. Typically, an anxious or angry person takes small, shallow breaths, using their shoulders rather than their diaphragm to move air in and out of their lungs. This style of breathing disrupts the bala...

We ALL Flip Our Lid Sometimes! Why do we get TRIGGERED?

04.05.25 04:24 AM - By Dr Elizma van der Smit - Comment(s)
We ALL Flip Our Lid Sometimes! Why do we get TRIGGERED?

We now know, people with histories of trauma can be ‘triggered’ in the present moment by traumatic memories of the past. Have you ever reacted with tremendous rage or recoiled in anxiety or shame to an event that didn’t demand such an extreme reaction? Do you sometimes wonder why you become highly e...

How the different attachment styles influence our experience of anger your post title

21.04.25 03:43 AM - By Dr Elizma van der Smit - Comment(s)
How the different attachment styles influence our experience of anger your post title

Attachment styles, formed in early childhood through interactions with caregivers, significantly influence how individuals experience and express anger throughout their lives. 

 

Here’s a simple description of the four primary attachment styles and how each is formed:

 

  1. Secure Attachment:
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